1) I'm not negative, I'm realistic

I have had a few occurances over the last month of people saying that I am negative...

I don't doubt that I am negative at times. As a matter of fact, I would venture to say that everyone thinks a negative thought at least one to five times a day. I have been told a few times that I favor the negative side of life. So in light of this discovery I have decided I would take a step back and re-evaluate my thoughts, actions, and comments.

The results have been shocking...

First, I had to figure out exactly what constitutes "negative." I mean, really, what is negative? Where is the grey line between negativity and reality? Let's take a look at this... I say, "that won't work because of (X)" Is that being negative if it is legit? If something REALLY WON'T work because of (X)? I don't think that's negativity, I think it's reality, especially if you have experience with said (X). Is it negative if someone says, "they are always like this, it doesn't change" if someone knows that it never changes...it is always like that and although one has tried to change something, it continues the same? What constitutes realistic? I feel that if someone says something and backs it up with and experience or reason then I say that's realistic. If someone says, "today sucks" and someone says, "why" and that person says, "today sucks because I woke up late, stubbed my toe on the scale in my bathroom, weighed myself saw that I gained weight, and my boyfriend dumped me over text etc..." I would say, "yeah, realistically...that sucks." Consequently, if someone answered, "today sucks because it just does..." I'd say that was being negative. Wouldn't you agree?


I don't tell people how to live their life. True, I may make suggestions as to what would make their life a little better, them complain less, and be a more enjoyable experience, but I don't tell people how to live there life. So, why am I criticized so much for having the attitude I have? It works for me. I have friends, they like to be around me (or so I think) and I get things accomplished. What does my attitude have to do with anytthing? Just because SOME people don't like it, why does it matter? I do what I do, I get things done, and for what I am trying to accomplish right now I am very successful.


SO BACK OFF, PEOPLE!

Does this post seem like I am defending myself? Most definitly am. I am so sick of everyone constantly looking and criticizing people...maybe it's about time people look at themselves and the lives they lead... I bet that would be pretty shocking...maybe too much to handle.

I believe everything happens for a reason, consequently I believe that everything works out the way it should, even if it isn't the desired result. I've learned that life isn't fair because a lot of times I have been put in situations that haven't turned out in my favor. Why? Because naturally I take leadership roles and that is what leaders typically have to deal with. Shit turning sour. My experiences have made me see a situation for what it is. The gory details of a situation, that's what I analyze. The bottom line is that, no, I do not live my life in a flowery abyss that every day is a sun shining day and the world is perfect. To me, that’s not realistic. I am practical, I work with what I have and don’t just rely on the stars to align for things to happen. Negative to you? Maybe...but not to me...it's all in your perception!

In conclusion, negativity is all how you frame it in your mind. It is your perception based on your thought patterns and experiences. You say negative, I say realistic.

Deal with it.